Praise be to
Allaah.
Gheebah
(backbiting, gossip) means that a person mentions the faults of his
Muslim brother in his absence, which he would not like if he heard about
it, when there is no need to mention them.
When
I say “mentions the faults of his brother”, this excludes cases when
the other person says something to praise or commend him.
When
I say “Muslim brother”, this excludes the kaafir, for there is no gheebah
in the case of a kaafir.
When
I say, “in his absence”, this excludes things said in his presence,
which is not called gheebah according to the more correct of the two
scholarly opinions.
When
I say, “which he would dislike if he heard about it”, this excludes
things which he would not mind.
When
I say, “when there is no need to mention them”, this excludes cases
when there is a shar’i reason for doing that, such as warning against
an innovator to make people aware of his bid’ah.
It
is essential to pay attention to the following in such cases:
1.
Sincerity
towards Allaah and seeking His pleasure.
2.
Paying attention
to the interests being served by such things.
3.
What is said
should be limited to the shortcomings in question and should not go
further, to matters in which there is no benefit.
The
scholars agreed that it is haraam to talk behind a person’s back for
no legitimate purpose. Most of them stated that this is a major sin
and that it varies in degree, some kinds being worse than others. The
one who backbites about a scholar is not like one who backbites about
an ignorant person. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“… neither backbite one another. Would one of you like
to eat the flesh of his dead brother? You would hate it (so hate backbiting).
And fear Allaah. Verily, Allaah is the One Who forgives and accepts
repentance, Most Merciful”
[al-Hujuraat 49:12]
In
Saheeh Muslim it is narrated from al-‘Alaa’ ibn ‘Abd al-Rahmaan
from his father from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) that
the Prophet
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Do you know what
gheebah is?” They said, “Allaah and His Messenger know best.” He said,
“That you say something about your brother that he dislikes.” He was
asked, “What if what I say about my brother is true?” He said, “If what
you say is true then you have gossiped about him, and if it is not true
then you have slandered him.”
Abu
Dawood narrated in his Sunan via Nawfal ibn Masaahiq from Sa’eed
ibn Zayd that the Prophet
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The most prevalent
kind of usury (riba) is going to lengths in talking unjustly against
a Muslim’s honour.”
And
he
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Your blood, your
wealth and your honour are sacred among you, as sacred as this day of
yours in this month of yours in this land of yours. Let those who are
present convey it to those who are absent; perhaps he will convey it
to one who has more understanding than he does.”
(Agreed
upon, from the hadeeth of Abu Bakrah).
One
of the worse types of gheebah and one which is most emphatically forbidden
it to look down upon a Muslim and do one’s utmost to insult him, show
disrespect towards him and cast aspersions upon his honour. This is
a blameworthy characteristic and a serious malady; it is one of the
major sins and the one who does this is subject to the warning and a
severe punishment.